Anger occurs when you have a strong feeling of hostility, displeasure and annoyance towards a person, thing or event, when one feels dissatisfied with a particular situation or event, we tend to respond in anger. Everyone had dealt with anger at a point in their life but how we control it matters as children of God. Getting angry is ok, but offending God in the process is wrong. Let me share some tips that has been of great help to me whenever I am angry
Catch a breath: Whenever you find yourself in any unpleasant situations that might excavate your anger, just take a minute to catch a breath. This will help you not to take the wrong steps.
Ask yourself some questions: It is important to find out the root of the anger, If after a search of the mind and you can’t find out while you are angry then you need to pray for the peace of God, because this is the attack of the devil.if you have a hint on what must have prompted the anger, ask yourself certain questions:
How did it start?
Who made me angry?
What was my expectation from the person?
Have I been taken for a fool?
Is the other party aware of his/her wrong?
After these questions above have been correctly answered then you can clear your mind and justify if your anger is need or not, and also how best to handle it.
Look into the word of God for strength: “Meditate within your heart on your bed and be still Selah”. Make the bible your partner at this point, read and meditate on the word of God; hear from God concerning the situation that might have prompted the anger. Doing this will give you strength to handle the situation appropriately. “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things”. Philippians 4:8
Take a step: After looking into the word of God to get the needed strength from it, then approach the person who hurt you, if he/she is approachable, relate yourself to him without boosting out, but if not, leave him/her to God. “Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord” (Romans 12:19).
Forgiveness: After committing the person to God, you have to let it out. I know it not easy, but with God all things are possible, so you can do it. Let him/her out. Only after forgiveness can you experience the peace of God which will guard your heart and give you joy. “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins”. Matthew 6 vs 14-15.